Thursday, November 17, 2011

My son...the loser?

Yes, I want my son to eventually be a loser.


No, it's not some weird thing where I want my son to fail or think he isn't capable. It's a fact of life: You can't win at everything. Sometimes you have to lose.

It's interesting that this was one of the themes of a recent episode of Parenthood. But it's the truth. You shouldn't shield your kids from losing. 

I opened this up to my Facebook recently. I'll share some of the comments with you: (I apologize for it being copies funny from FB)

 I think it is setting the world up for a bunch of spoiled brats that have no value in learning from loss and growing their character

Not good. Losing is a part of life.

 Kids need to learn that they can't always win, and with that comes lessons on hard work and perseverence. But everything doesn't have to be a competition either: )

 Losing is a part of life. I think learning how to bow out gracefully and how to be a polite winner is a much more important lesson than no winners or losers.

I think the kids that are getting awards for everything feel like they are owed something. And feel worthless and angry when not given what is owed them in their minds. As mentioned before losing is a part of life, we don't always get what we want or even what we may deserve. Sadly, these kids are learning that they don't have to work for anything I order to get their reward in life.

A good natured competitive spirit is a good thing. You win some you lose some. Kids need to know this!

 I think for some, friendly competition is motivation. Later in life, it's hard to be motivated for say, a job you don't like. I wish I was a little more competitive! However, I think you can also stress individual goals. You may not win each battle, but you finish the game!

I have two very different feelings on this. As a parent, I do think it's important to understand losing and winning and have a healthy (not overly emphasized) sense of competition. Winning and losing is part of life and kids need to be brought up to understand you can learn from your mistakes and improve your losses. However, as a teacher, I find it very detrimental to implement too much competition in the classroom. Especially with special education children, who very rarely "win" against their peers. I don't like my kids to come into class always competing with each other and calling each other losers in games and lessons. I do think it's important for them to compete against themselves and to "win" by improving their individual achievement. But it can have a very negative effect on children to be conditioned from a young age that winning and losing is so important, particularly for students who are not going to be winning much when put against peers with higher abilities in a lot of fields. Hope that makes sense.

 How will you ever know that you have succeeded unless you have failed?

It seems so strange that my kids have been given trophies for nothing more than showing up to dance class (yes, DANCE class) and soccer practice. They do not value those "awards" at ALL. My oldest 2 have played sports in Boys & Girls Club, which is a non-competitive league, so the scores don't mean anything, except in volleyball, because they play best of 3 games up to 25 points. Even in a non-competitive league, it's the PARENTS who get SO competitive & take the win/lose situation really far. Not all of them, but I feel bad for the kids whose parents compete through them. Healthy competition is good, but winning at all cost or being berated after a game (or during) for the way you played can't be good for those poor kids. They will certainly lose any love of playing the sport in those environments.

I think it is good for kids to learn how to lose. Build character and helps them learn to deal with disappointment. 
Also, I think everyone should be acknowledged for trying and doing their best. Too much focus is often put on the winners, but just because you lose doesn't mean you are a "loser"...if you did your best, that is what matters.

So, the general consensus was: Kids need to learn that losing happens and how to deal with it...but also how to be a gracious winner. I agree 100%. I remember doing Field Day at my school (does that still happen?) and everyone got a ribbon...but it was a place ribbon. If there were 7 participants and you came in dead last you got a 7th place ribbon. The kid that won got a bright blue 1st place ribbon. I remember doing my best at some thing and failing miserably...but the kids that got higher placement would ALWAYS congratulate the rest of us on a good try and job well done. No one flaunted (and if they did it was friendly competition and always in good taste...a silly victory dance or something)

What are your thoughts? Do kids need to win and lose? Or is it best when everyone is equal?

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

7 Mins and Stairs = WORKOUT

Seriously. I challenged myself to get a quick workout in using nothing but my stairs and imagination. I did and I feel it today!

- Timer (I used my phone)
- Stairs (You could probably use a small set but I have an upstairs so it's a large set)
- Workout clothes if you want...I put on a sports bra and didn't change out of my jeans.

These are each done in 1min increments. The cool thing is that if you're less in shape you can half it (30s each) and if you're in great shape you can double it (2min each).

- Running stairs (up and down)
- Pushups (Lean forward on the stairs)
- Forward Bends (I stood at the bottom and touched the bottom step. Kind of like a dead it slowly)
- Deep Squats (Again, standing at the bottom. Squat down until you're almost sitting on the bottom step. Knees over toes.)
- Plyo Step Ups (Kind of like this: But I wasn't jumping as high. Just tap and switch)
- Regular Step Ups (30s each leg
- Crunches (I laid on the floor and put my legs on the stairs at a 90 degree for me that was laying them on the 2nd step)

DONE! Try it!

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Pinterest Post

I don't spend that much time on Pinterest (I know, I'm a freak...WHY AM I NOT ADDICTED?!)

Here are some of my recent favorites!

Source: via Kasondra on Pinterest

I'm linking up here:
Crazy About My Baybah

Head on over and find some awesome pins and people to follow!! And be sure to FOLLOW ME!

Monday, November 14, 2011

I wish someone had told me...

So, I love my kids to death. I really really do! They're hilarious most of the time.

There are a few things I wish someone had told me about being a mom. I opened this thought up to Facebook and now I can't find it!! If you answered on the page please add your thoughts to the comments below!

I wish someone had told me...

- that I'd have bruises on the tops of my feet from my children stepping on's just weird.

- that I'd willingly reach out and catch puke in my hands. 

- that I'd get pooped on and shrug it off...or LAUGH.

- that I'd get peed on weekly.

- that I'd become "that mom" that brings her own kid's snacks to parties. (Hey, food dye and HFCS makes him go NUTS)

- that it would be MY kid screaming "SHUT UP" repeatedly at the top of his lungs at the grocery store.

- that makeup would be a luxury.

- that I would consider a few bites of hotdog a "meal." (For kids or adults)

- that I'd love someone as much as I love my family. ( have to have the sappy entry!)

Comment below!! What things did you not expect as a parent?

Monday, November 7, 2011

On the Bandwagon...Judge Adams

There's an article (with additional links) here

Before I say anything I'm going to lay down a few rules...

1) This is not a spanking debate. I will not turn this into a spanking debate.

2) This is my OPINION.

3) I'm not playing out the "He said, she said" aspect of this.

4) We are not doing the "I've seen worse" dance. I don't care that your mama used to beat you worse than that so you don't see what the big deal is...just because there's "worse" doesn't make it OKAY.

I'm going to say flat out that I disagree with what he did. He went too far, he broke a cardinal rule of discipline (doing it during anger), and I disagree with spanking teenagers ANYWAY. I believe that, if you choose to spank, there is an age limit (both upper and lower).

I also believe there are more effective ways to discipline a teenager. From what I've gathered this incident was due to her downloading music illegally. Fine, if that's a rule in your house then follow through. I've also gathered that this was not the first time she'd done something like this...

Then why is there still a computer in her room? (It's obvious at the start of the video) If she can't control herself with her computer then why does she still have it? That would have been my FIRST reaction: Remove Computer! There's also software you can install that prevents downloading ANYTHING without authorization. Install that on your public computer.

If she STILL can't follow the rules lock the computer and put a time limit on the access...or cut off access totally. No, no one NEEDS the computer.

Does she have a cell phone? Take that away! TV time? Nope! Friends? Nope!

Seriously, spanking is not the way to go with teenagers! There are better ways to make things stick...

Okay, those are my initial thoughts. Care to share?

Friday, November 4, 2011

Boob Tube Babble: New Shows

Boob Tube Babble

Shows I discovered this week are Grimm and Once Upon a Time.

I *really* enjoy these. I like that TV is going away from vampires a bit. It was really starting to get overdone. And I always enjoy a show that turns fairy tales on their ends. It's neat. I watched Tin Man and Alice on Syfy a few years back and enjoyed them!

Have you seen them? What did you think??

Last night's low starch dinner!

Dinner was anything but boring last night!

camera phone

I'll break it down. (Yes, I understand that I do NOT sound cool when I say that)

Porkchops: Butterflied and cut in half (so two butterflied chops makes 4 little ones) I seasoned them with salt, pepper, oregano, and curry (the last on one side). The curry was on a whim but it was really good! I just pan seared them over medium heat. Keep the lid on the pan and it cooks faster. I took them off when the inside reached 165F.

Steamed Broccoli: That's pretty much it. I did end up adding a bit of cheese to it...

Quinoa Stir Fry: This is the fun one. First I put the quinoa on to start cooking. Then, I chopped up bacon into small pieces. I don't know how many strips I was leftover and a lot. I fried that in another pan until it was nice and crispy. When that was done I added chopped mushrooms to the mix and cooked for a few minutes. Add some frozen corn (again, as much or as little as you want...I just did it for color so I didn't do a lot). When that's heated add half a can of black beans. I rinsed them before throwing them in there. Season with salt, pepper, onion, and garlic to taste. When the quinoa is done add that in and stir fry until well mixed. Adjust seasonings if necessary.

Done. Dinner took 20-30mins. It was low starch, high protein, and REALLY filling. Everyone loved it! Yes, that includes both of my boys!

Wednesday, November 2, 2011


My mother in law sent me this today and I thought it was full of awesome ideas! We don't normally buy dryer sheets (cloth diapers) but I might just for the bug repelling properties!

It will chase ants away when you lay a sheet near them. It also repels mice.

2.  Spread sheets around foundation areas, or in trailers, or cars that are sitting and it keeps mice from entering your vehicle.

3.  It takes the odor out of books and photo albums that don't get opened too often.
4.  It repels mosquitoes. Tie a sheet of Bounce through a belt loop when outdoors during mosquito season.

5.  Eliminate static electricity from your television (or computer) screen.

6.  Since Bounce is designed to help eliminate static cling, wipe your television screen with a used sheet of Bounce to keep dust from resettling..

7.  Dissolve soap scum from shower doors. Clean with a sheet of Bounce.

8.  To freshen the air in your home - Place an individual sheet of Bounce in a drawer or hang in the closet.

9.   Put Bounce sheet in vacuum cleaner.

10.  Prevent thread from tangling. Run a threaded needle through a sheet of Bounce before beginning to sew.

11.  Prevent musty suitcases. Place an individual sheet of Bounce inside empty luggage before storing.

12.  To freshen the air in your car - Place a sheet of Bounce under the front seat.

13.  Clean baked-on foods from a cooking pan. Put a sheet in a pan, fill with water, let sit overnight, and sponge clean. The anti-static agent apparently weakens the bond between the food and the pan..

14.  Eliminate odors in wastebaskets. Place a sheet of Bounce at the bottom of the wastebasket.

15.  Collect cat hair. Rubbing the area with a sheet of Bounce will magnetically attract all the loose hairs.

16. Eliminate static electricity from Venetian blinds.. Wipe the blinds with a sheet of Bounce to prevent dust from resettling.

17.  Wipe up sawdust from drilling or sand papering. A used sheet of Bounce will collect sawdust like a tack cloth.

18.  Eliminate odors in dirty laundry. Place an individual sheet of Bounce at the bottom of a laundry bag or hamper.

19.  Deodorize shoes or sneakers. Place a sheet of Bounce in your shoes or sneakers overnight.

20.  Golfers put a Bounce sheet in their back pocket to keep the bees away.

21.  Put a Bounce sheet in your sleeping bag and tent before folding and storing them. It will keep them smelling fresh.

22.  Wet a Bounce sheet, hose down your car, and wipe love bugs off easily with the wet Bounce. 

Beachbody Challenge (Discounts AND a Chance to Win MONEY!)

You know me. I'm always excited about sales and winning money!!

There are Challenge Packs now available through Beachbody.

If you want a ton of info and have 5mins there's a video here:

If not I'll sum it up...

I'm starting Challenge Groups!

'Challenge Group' is a great way to stay accountable, motivated, and get excellent tips, thoughts,and helpful suggestions along the way! Now, there really are 'no more excuses'....:)
(space will be limited-There will only be 5 spots available in each group)So, call your friends and get them into the group you choose...:)
Message me TODAY if you're SERIOUS about getting YOUR RESULTS!!

We'll be in a group on Facebook to check in and chat. There will be rules...but rules will get results.

Cool huh?

Right now I'm pretty flexible on what groups I'm starting. I would REALLY like to do a couple of groups. Body Gospel is awesome...and I've experienced cool stuff from P90X already. 

~Choose one group:Workout Program along with Shakeology
~Commit to the full program!!
***Purchase your Challenge Pack HERE***
-Click on BEACHBODY CHALLENGE on right side of page- fill out information and that's're in!!

Can't afford it? I feel ya! Economy sucks right now. But you know what's right around the corner? Christmas!!! (and other gift giving holidays if that's not your thing) I'm willing to bet a couple of my readers have birthdays coming up too. Tell everyone to pitch in and get you a Challenge Pack! Think of it like this: A TurboJam CP is 4 people giving $40...that's the price of the average gift right? (I don't know...we did stocking stuffers last year)

Another thing? Buying one as you sign up to coach WAIVES the coach fee. And Shakeology is cheaper even after the coach fee!! 


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